In our daily lives, we tend to talk about what we think and what we do instead of how we feel. Most of the time, our emotions are less visible to others. Perhaps we are scared of emotions, we may think they are intimate or expressing them could be seen as a weakness. We may also not know what we feel, what function they have or how to express them. After all, who teaches us anything about emotions at school? However, emotions do play an important role in our daily conversations and our relationships in general.
In many relationship arguments, what we do is simply talk about the issues over and over again, but we seem to end up without a satisfying solution. Maybe there is something missing in that conversation? Blaming each other, pointing out each other’s faults, or restating what happened dominates our typical conversations. What about how we feel about the other person or the relationship in general? Emotions are amazing tools for communication, meaning and intent. They add value to communication and relationships.
Of course, expressing emotions all the time is very difficult and exhausting. It may not even be necessary. But emotions give communications and interpersonal relationships some sort of vividness. For a more meaningful communication, it is utmost important that we should not only be aware of our emotions, but also effectively express them. Learning to be emotionally intelligent and using the relevant skills is not very easy, but it can be developed in time with practice and some professional help if necessary.
Emotions matter, do not ignore them.